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Practical Divorce Advice

Any voicemail message that you leave your spouse, you will hear again. Don’t leave a message that you would not want a judge to hear.

Any e-mail, text message, note or letter that you send, you will see again. Don’t write anything that you wouldn’t want a judge to read.

Assume (because it usually is true) that nothing is ever completely erased from your computer. Forensic Computer Experts can find anything. Be careful what you do on your home computer.

Never promise what you can’t deliver, and keep the promises you do make. Pick up your children when you say you will. Do not disappoint your kids.

Dress up for court! Just because you are not at work, you are not on vacation. It is your job to make a good impression on the judge.

Never sign a Separation Agreement because:

  • My spouse will go to counseling/reconcile, etc. if I sign it;
  • I want to avoid animosity;
  • I just want this over with.


It is much less expensive to have a lawyer review an Agreement before you sign it than to live with the consequences of having signed it forever. This is a legally binding contract, and you probably will not be able to get out of it.

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